Deal with the trigger
We’ve all heard that old saying, ‘Out of sight is out of mind’. But when it comes to stress relief, that is definitely not true. You may have pushed whatever is triggering your stress out of your conscious mind, but it is still there in the background, eating away at you.
It is tempting to push it out of your awareness and hope it will go away, but that rarely happens. I know from my own experience that get we sometimes get stressed about things that are much less important than we imagine. But usually, there is a cause that needs to be dealt with.
Imagine that debt is the issue. Your credit card bills arrive and you push them unopened into a drawer. You don’t even want to know the magnitude of the debt. You are able to put them out of your mind but the problem is still there, and growing. Interest is piling up and failure to make payments is damaging your credit rating.
Deep down, you are aware of this. It is like a computer program that is minimized on the task bar. You can’t see it but it is using some of your resources and impacting your ability to deal with other stuff in your life. It is taking space in your memory and damaging your capacity to make decisions.
Free your mind
Where there is a very real issue to be dealt with, you should do it and do it early. The reality is rarely as bad as you imagine it will be. Even if it is, it won’t be improved by delaying. While you are not taking action, you are suffering unnecessarily.
Take out those bills and open them. Add up the outstanding amounts and write it down. Once it is on paper, you don’t need to clutter your mind with it. You can start to think and take practical steps. Approach your creditors and explain your difficulties. They aren’t ogres, they are business people.
Working it out
It is in their interest to help you to resolve the situation so that they can recover the debt. Chances are that you will be able to agree a repayment plan that you can afford. Once you can see the debt reducing, even by a little, you feel that you have some kind of control again. It is almost like a physical weight being lifted off you.
Whatever your particular stress factor, it may be beneficial to write about it. Not for anyone else to see, just for you. When you bring it into the cold light of day, it might not seem so scary. Once it is on paper it is a case of ‘in sight and out of mind‘. This may sound weird but it works, I’ve tried it.