This is a subject that comes up time after time and always generates a lot of interest.
Why? Because we all been there. All of of us, at some point, have decided to stop pursuing a goal that we set for ourselves. I know that I have.
It’s a good bet that most of you have too. The fact is that only a very small percentage of the population are outstandingly successful while the rest of us either struggle or just get by.
You can bet that those people who are successful would say that it is never OK to give up. Once you have decided what you want, you just keep going until you get it.
Nobody wants to think of themselves as a quitter but are there times when you should give up?
The key issue here is deciding what you want. There can be several reasons why a goal you set now seems to become less attractive later.
One of them is putting artificial limitations on what you want. Instead of just daring to dream, you allow yourself to be constrained by what is ‘possible’.
As a child, you pick up the beliefs and values of your parents and siblings. You also adopt their limits.
They define what you are able to accept as being realistic.
There is also the question of what is acceptable. If you come from a family of doctors, it might be hard to tell them you want to go into rock music.
But it can be more subtle than that.
An idea pops into your head and it seems attractive to you but you can’t help wondering what ‘they’ would think about it.
Not your friends and family. You wonder what people you are never going to meet would think. Would society judge my goal as being worthwhile.
Well, to be honest, who cares. If your goal is worthwhile to you, it doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks. It is your life that will be spent in pursuit of it.
If you don’t choose something that matters to you, you will never follow through with it anyway.
And that is when it can be OK to give up.
If you carry out an honest review and realise that for whatever reason, you have been influenced to choose a goal that you don’t feel aligned with, you should absolutely change it.
Remember, we are talking about a lifetime goal here. You may have shorter term goals or intermediate steps, but this one is the biggie.
The one you are going to spend your life in pursuit of. It needs to be yours. It needs to be big. It needs to be exciting.
If you going to keep your goal in mind, it needs to be bigger than any obstacle that you might come across along the way.
It needs to be so enticing that when you see one of these obstacles, your mind automatically turns to ways around it, over it or through it.
When you have this kind of goal, it is never Ok to quit. Not that that idea would even occur to you.
After all, if you are not pursuing your goal, what else are you going to be doing?